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Girafsprog - Empatisk Kommunikation
giraffe language - empathetic communication
ulvesprog wolves-language

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"When a group or a couple has transparency, a full disclosure of all the important elements of one’s inner and outer life, then individuals cannot be turned against each other through the spread of false rumors. This allows trust to grow strong. The commitment to stay open to each other even when someone does something out of integrity makes it much easier for everyone to keep telling the whole truth."


Strong female bonding is a hallmark of nonviolent communities. All of the strong nonviolent matrilineal cultures that I have studies were based on the strength of the women’s circle. At the Zegg Community the women meet together daily to clear the air between them and to strengthen, nurture and show affection for each other. This prevents divisive elements from growing, and creates a powerful spiritual force field that will not tolerate any form of violence. It establishes a basis of trust between the women, precluding the fear and distrust that dominator society women have when it comes to their men. There is a trust and even an encouragement that the husbands of these women would be loved by their sisters.

This kind of bonding is of course not allowed in totalitarian social systems like the fundamentalist Islamic societies like Afghanistan’s Taliban. There are several common cultural norms that keep the religious right’s stranglehold of power over their people:

In these societies they keep the sexes separate in their schools and churches.
Sex is punished if used for anything other than procreation.
The head male in the family is religiously empowered to have exclusive control over women, children and sexual expression.
In Alice Miller’s study of German family systems and culture she describes how the tyrannical family unit, headed by a single strict dominating male, were the building blocks that allowed a Nazi Government to do what it did. Wilhelm Reich, a refugee from Nazi Germany, said in his masterpiece book, The Mass Psychology of Fascism, that historically the best way for repressive governments to hold onto power was through the authoritarian family system, where it’s repressive ideology is indoctrinated into the next generation, and particularly through "sexual suppression". He says the "psychosexual roots" of tyranny have a deep and long history.

Kurodab, a Kyoto university primatologist suggests that another reason the Bonobos are ‘pacific, peaceful and gregarious’ is because they have made an evolutionary movement toward sex as a means of creating a peaceful culture based on the sharing of sensual and sexual pleasure rather than on coercion and fear.

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